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“What’s Our Next Step, Dr. Elena”?

You may have come in to see me or perhaps your sessions have been via phone or skype. You may be wondering about your progress and ask me, “What’s our next step”, “What’s the plan”, or “Where are we going with this, Dr. Elena”?

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Those are valid questions and the answer is as different as the people asking the question. Usually someone sends this question via email or text message, and expects a quick answer.

There is no way I can know what our “next step” is and respond in a professionally ethical way about what is best for you at the stage of healing you now, without knowing more about how you are feeling.

I need to have feedback from you.

My response cannot be done via text or email. When I tell people this they may have sent me long texts or emails updating me on symptoms, where I’m asked what supplements to continue, which to incorporate, etc.

You deserve an accurate answer that is specific to you. You are unique. What is right for others may not be what is right for you.

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We need to schedule a time to meet, skype or talk on the phone as there are questions I have to ask you. There may be aspects of what is going on that are not clear to you, questions I will need to ask you about how you are doing and feeling and it has to be a two-way dialogue.

For me to help you in the best way, and for me help you from a place of integrity and what is best for you, it is important to have a dialogue about it.

You might ask me, “How long to do I need to take this product”? The answer might be, “I don’t know…it depends upon you, your symptoms, your energy, your blood tests, other tests we might do or re-do to follow up and see your progress, what is going on in your life emotionally, environmentally and even spiritually, what else you may have been doing regarding your diet, the stressors in your life, if you are sleeping, how you are exercising, what has changed” and so on.

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Don’t cheat yourself and don’t cheat on your health. You deserve to feel well, be happy, enjoy life and have the energy to live fully.

Expecting me to respond with a short email or text with a detailed answer when I don’t have all of the facts about what is going on with you and where I cannot ask you questions, cheats you out of getting the best service and care from me. I am here to help you and to give you the best service, care, feedback and direction that I can. I want you to feel great and be well. My passion is to help you do that.

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Healing takes time. It took you a long time to get to the imbalanced state that brought you to me. It’s a process. Your body changes over time and we adjust what we do, depending upon those changes.

Check in, make an appointment and give yourself the gift of health. You deserve it.

 

In health, healing and happiness,

Dr. Elena 😉

 

 

 

Forget What You Know? Don’t Do It!

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“Man’s mind, once stretched by a new idea, never regains its original dimensions.”  – Oliver Wendell Holmes

My years of research and study have led me in many different directions to help others. When I sit with someone in my office, I often get “intuitive flashes” of what is going on with them that has nothing to do with what they are saying or why they even came in to see me.

I might get an intuitive flash that they have a blood sugar imbalance issue or that they are possibly diabetic. I might also pick up on virus being present in their body and find out that they have been dealing with herpes for years.

They might come in for a health issue and I get an intuitive flash that their spouse has recently asked for a divorce. They may come in to sort out a marital issue and I pick up on a thyroid imbalance or even Hashimoto’s which as not yet been diagnosed.

What is amazing to me is that if I get out of my own way and allow myself to be a channel for healing on any level, information comes to me that is beneficial to that person in front of me.

Before I start work in my office, I also ask for guidance to give me any information that might be helpful for who I will be meeting with that day. I also ask to be a channel of service and for protection for all involved.

This might seem “airy fairy” or too “woo woo” for some. Often I don’t even mention that I have done this, but I do use the information that has been transmitted to me, to help those who seek out my services.

I cannot forget what I know. And you cannot either. 

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Perhaps there are things that have been nagging at you, thoughts you have tried to avoid thinking about, things you’ve noticed in your relationships or your health that you have chosen to try to push out of your mind.

Your higher self, guidance, angels, universal intelligence, the source, the Almighty (or whatever name or words you use) is trying to communicate with you. Keep open to that communication, trust it and follow it. If what you hear is for the good of those around you as well as yourself, it is probably coming from a true source.

Ignoring the wisdom that is coming to you can even create depression, anxiety or various health issues. Don’t forget what you know…your higher self (again whatever words that you use to refer to this) not only knows what is best for you, it wants you to incorporate it, listen to it and when you do…you will give you stronger and more positive guidance!

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Dr. Elena Michaels is a naturopathic doctor, holistic psychotherapist, family therapist and clinical hypnotherapist who has been helping people create happiness, enhanced health and well being and more joy for over 30 years. Her passion is helping others regain their power physically, mentally, emotionally and spiritually, to become a master of their lives.  

 

 

 

3 Ways To Enhance Your Relationships

Someone asked me recently what’s the best way to enhance relationships?

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We all have issues and sometimes friction in our relationships, whether they be with our significant other, children, extended family, coworkers or friends.

First and foremost, we cannot change another person. That’s their job. What we can do and have complete control over, is changing our own perceptions. We can change how we view them and what they are doing, and what is going on in the relationship between us. We can choose the more empowering stance of responding, instead of automatically reacting.

The desire to blame, be critical and judgmental and “be right” is very strong. It takes conscious effort to let go, accept, take responsibility for our own thoughts, feelings and actions and to communicate that.

So are you tired of being frustrated and want to know how to communicate what is going on and how you are feeling without blaming, judging or criticizing?

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Here are 3 ways to enhance your relationships and how to do it:

1. Easy…speak in the first person. Don’t use the word “you”. Start your sentences with “I feel”, “I wonder”, “I wonder if we”, “I am” and so on. Watch what happens…when you leave out the word “you” from what you are saying, it allows the other person to hear you…really hear you. It also allows them to possibly step up and take responsibility for their part. Maybe they do, maybe they don’t, but you have taken care of yourself emotionally and vocalized in the first person, what is going on with you.

Issue: Your partner/child/family member/coworker interrupts you when you talk, or corrects what you are saying before you’ve even finishing your sentence.

Solution: Stop yourself from saying something snotty and instead you might calmly say something like, “I appreciate being able to finish my thoughts and what I am saying without interruption”. And then stop and be quiet. They might realize what they are doing and then apologize (or not). What matters is that you said what was going on with you and by doing this you have avoided a possible argument.

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If you say (in an agitated voice), “You always interrupt me, you don’t let me finish what I am saying and you correct me. I hate that!” All you will get in response is them defending themselves, they won’t hear you and more distance and friction will ensue.

Try speaking in the first person…it takes effort and being conscientious until you get the hang of it, but it is very effective.

2. Stop focusing on what is NOT working. Only acknowledge what IS working.

Issue: Your teenagers leave clothes all over the house and expect you to pick them up. You are tired of yelling at them about it, focusing on what they aren’t doing, you feel taken advantage of, irritated and that there is disrespect for you, the clothes and money you spent on them. But because you like a clean house you pick the clothes up (and even wash them), feeling resentful the entire time.

Solution: In a calm moment, give everyone the heads up on what will be going on. Say something like, “I really appreciate having a clean and orderly home. So if there are clothes lying around I will pick them up and dump them on the floor of the room of the person the clothes belong to. I will be doing a washer and dryer lesson Saturday at 1 PM (or whenever), so that person can do their own laundry.” Be light, smile, and come from a place of helpfulness. We have to help our kids learn how to take care of themselves and be responsible. You might put a time limit on how long you will be picking up the clothes…say two weeks, and then telling them up front that after that, you will pick up the clothes, donate them and not pay for any replacements.

And when you see one of your kids picking up their clothes or see the house being more orderly, acknowledge it, give them a hug and tell them you love them. Focus on what you want, NOT what you don’t want.

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3. Let go. Stop trying to control or change.

Issue: Your friend wants to be a blond, wear hair extensions and go out drinking. The color of her hair is brassy, is the same color she dyed it in college and you think it ages her. You have mentioned this several times but she doesn’t hear you and argues with you that she “likes being a blond and just wants to look as young as she can and have fun (drinking) before she’s an old woman”.

Solution: Let it go. If she wants to be a brassy blond and drink, that is her choice. You don’t have to drink with her, you can meet her for lunch or coffee. She’s allowed to adorn herself any way she chooses…it’s her body. (If you find her an embarrassment maybe it’s time to move on and find other friends you have more in common with.)

But if you really love her, she has lots of great qualities and you value having her in your life, acknowledge when she looks pretty and wears something in a color that is flattering. You might also casually point out someone else’s hair color and say something like, “That color of that woman’s hair is so flattering and youthful”, etc. In short, let it go. You don’t have any control over her choices but you can support the positive choices she makes.

This is the same approach for your husband wearing those horrendous faded and torn baggy shorts, your 21 year old daughter dying her hair magenta, your son growing his hair long and straggly or your younger sister piercing her nose.

Speak in the first person, focus on what IS working and let go! Take that desire to control someone else and their choices, and use that intensity and energy to work on yourself!

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Dr. Elena Michaels is a naturopathic doctor, holistic psychotherapist, family therapist and clinical hypnotherapist who has been helping people enhance their relationships and create happiness for over 30 years. Her passion is helping others regain their power physically, mentally, emotionally and spiritually, to become a master of their lives.  

 

Thyroid, Hashimoto’s, TSH and YOU

Frustrated WomanPeople come into my office with anxiety, depression, weight concerns, hair loss, insomnia, heart palpitations, digestive issues, feeling cold frequently, brain fog, memory issues and other concerns.

 

They are often told by their doctors that they are “fine” and “normal” yet they feel feel that something is just not right with them. Sometimes their doctor may suggest antidepressants because the person has continued to “complain”.

Thyroid issues are often involved in these situations. If there is elevated TSH (according to the bell curve on the doctor’s lab results sheet) T4 medication (Synthroid, levothyroxine, etc.) is prescribed.

There may be no discernible results from taking the medication and the person still feels awful, or there may be minimal improvement.

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Looking only at the TSH values and not addressing the symptoms and concerns of the person, is like taking your car into the shop when it isn’t running well and asking the mechanic to only look at the rear left tire!

There is so much more to addressing the underlying mechanisms creating the symptoms. People will tell me their doctor “ran tons of tests” yet when I get a copy of the labs it isn’t even close to the very basic tests I run to find out what is going with a person. How can someone be told they are “fine” and “normal” when the tests aren’t even done?

The TSH values tend to jump around, going up and down. Trying to get TSH in range is not the most effective way to address the situation. Since more than 90% of low thyroid (hypothyroid) cases are really undiagnosed Hashimoto’s (autoimmune thyroid), it becomes more of an immune system issue. The immune system is attacking the thyroid gland and often other body systems and organs as well. As the thyroid gland continues to be attacked, symptoms become more disconcerting and the person seeks help and direction. By the time they come into my office they are frustrated, exhausted and often angry that so much time has elapsed without getting the help they wanted from their doctor.

The blood tests for Hashimoto’s are TPO (thyroid peroxidase) and TGB or TGA (thyroglobulin) antibodies. Close to 10% of us test positive for these antibodies. Most commonly the tests aren’t even done but when they are done, there may not even be any symptoms. However, left unaddressed, symptoms will develop over time as the thyroid gland (and possibly other tissues) are destroyed. Another issue is that the antibodies go up and down, so just because they don’t show up on a test, doesn’t mean they aren’t present…the test may have been run when the antibodies were in their “low” cycle.

Insurance companies are now being more strict with what they cover. Because of this, doctors are often reluctant to run antibody and other tests that could provide the information needed to figure out what is really going on.

Managing the immune system is the most effective way to address Hashimoto’s. I see chat groups and facebook pages with people (mostly women) trying desperately to find a doctor that can “get the right medication and dosage to get their TSH balanced”. That isn’t the answer…addressing the immune system yields much more satisfying and healing results.

If you feel frustrated with your path toward health, have not been improving or getting the help you need, let me help you.

I’ve been there…misdiagnosed, watching my life pass by, wondering if I would ever feel like myself again, too exhausted to be motivated or excited about anything and feeling depressed and anxious about all of it.

I can help you learn how to get control and manage your health, address your immune system, regain your balance and power and move forward creating a wonderful life for yourself. With the right tools and your own commitment to healing, you can regain your vitality, enthusiasm, energy and joy.

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I look forward to hearing from you and helping you on your journey toward health!

Dr. Elena

 

Dr. Elena Michaels is a naturopathic doctor, holistic psychotherapist and clinical hypnotherapist who has been helping people access their inner innate healing power for over 30 years.  Having personally overcome many health challenges including cancer and Hashimoto’s Thyroiditis (autoimmune disease), her passion is helping others regain their health and vitality, taking control of their life.  

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Are You Interested or Committed to Your Healing?

Are you simply interested or are you committed to your healing and reaching your goals?  What’s the difference?

If you are “interested” you might simply be checking things out, seeing what your options might be and considering the idea of moving forward.

If you are “committed”, you are at that place of being sick and tired of feeling less than you know you could be.  You know this place, right?

Fatigue, lack of energy, loss of vitality, weight gain, insomnia and other symptoms are your body’s ways of communicating with you to let you know that you are out of balance.

Physiological imbalances from stress, illness, insomnia, chronic conditions (such as autoimmune or thyroid issues), hormone issues, depression and anxiety can keep you from being the best you can be.

When you are less than the best you can be, it affects everything…your relationships with your partner (or wishing you had a partner), your family and children, co-workers and friends.  Most of all, your perspective is clouded, your brain isn’t functioning well and the joy is in your life is elusive.

I get calls from people who are “interested”.  When the time comes to make a commitment to themselves, their health and well-being and making some changes, we realize that they are simply “interested”…they aren’t ready and are stuck in that place that is comfortable because it is familiar…and because they’ve been there for some time.  That’s cool…when the time is right, the time is right.

When I get calls from people who are “committed”, I know it right away. They are ready and willing to do whatever it takes to be the best they can be.  They have just been looking for the right person to help them through whatever it is that has been causing physical or emotional discomfort.

They have decided to put themselves first and realize that if they are not feeling and functioning well, everything around them seems to be “off”. These are the people who know there is more…they don’t want to be held back by health or emotional issues any longer…they are READY.

When people are committed, they have come to a point in their lives where they just “know” it’s time to make the changes to expand and grow to the next level.  They are thrilled to have found an ally and partner in their healing and growth, they are excited and looking forward to our work together and to reaping the rewards of being a master of their health and their life.  The growth just flows!

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I love when this happens…it’s a thrill for me to see people grow and such an honor to be part of their process of empowerment and mastery!

Which are you…simply “interested” or are you truly “committed” to yourself, your health and your goals?  If you aren’t committed now, when will you be?  What are you waiting for?

Yours in health and healing,

Dr. Elena 😉

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Taking Down The Tree, Counting Blessings And A Gift For You

Today we took down the tree and all of the holiday decorations.  Soothing music played as I looked at each ornament, thought about how many years I’ve had it and where it came from, and the memories each ornament held for me.

I remembered when my boys were very little and we’d bought our first expensive (or so they seemed to me at the time) ornaments.  Some of those were still on the tree this year.  I lovingly removed and put away the little handmade wooden star ornament my daughter-in-law made for us when she first starting going out with our son.  It was their first year together as a couple and she gave it to us along with her amazing home-made pies.  She was by his side as he went through yet another reconstructive surgery that year, so dedicated and caring while he was in the hospital.  Now they are married and have a beautiful little girl.

I removed the cherished ornament that my other son made for me when he was 2 1/2 years old.  It’s the lid of a mason jar with a photo his Montessori preschool teacher took of him, which was glued inside the lid.  It had glitter and sequins all over the outside rim of the lid and hangs by a metallic cord.  I can’t believe how the years have gone by…it seems like yesterday that the little blond boy in in the picture was in my arms.

I packed away the little glass lamp we always have out during the holidays that was given to us by my husband’s mother.  She passed away in December several years ago and we always have it out and lit by the tree all during the holidays as we think about her.

I think about my 2 year old granddaughter looking at the tree and ornaments this year as she proudly told me that this one is a “star”, that one a “heart”, that one an “angel” and another one an “icicle” as she pointed her precious little finger at each one and looked at me, eyes sparkling and wide with wonder.

And I thought about the years that I was too sick to even put up a tree or any kind of decorations…the years I just lay on the sofa too tired, too weak to do anything like decorate, buy gifts or send cards.  I think about the times I wondered if I would ever see another Christmas holiday season…if I would make it through or not.  I give thanks for the years I had energy to decorate the tree, send cards, get into the holiday spirit and go to parties and spend time with friends and loved ones.

This year I feel great, inspired and motivated, full of life and ready for what’s next.  I have projects and messages I want to create and share, and people I want to help.  With each ornament I removed from the tree today, I gave thanks for the many blessings and true gifts in my life, for my health and the health of my loved ones, for the opportunity to hopefully be able to touch the lives of others in a deep and profound way, helping them to access their own inner power to manifest their dreams.

I intend for this year of 2012 to be a year of joy and celebration and I intend it to be that for you, too.  If you would like my special report, “10 Keys To Create More Joy in Your Day”, along with a short audio meditation, simply go to my website at www.DrElena.com and enter your email address in the box on the right side of the page.

In love and light,

Dr. Elena 😉

 

 

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